Some people use technology—such as photos, videos, social media, and dating apps—to engage in harassing, unsolicited, or non-consensual sexual interactions. It can leave the person on the other end feeling manipulated, unsafe, exposed, and worried about their online reputation. The laws pertaining to these situations vary from state to state and platform to platform and they are evolving rapidly. Learn more about these situations so you can feel better prepared to report and protect yourself if they happen.
What are some ways people use digital technology to hurt others?
The following list includes some of the ways a person can use digital technology in a sexually explicit or violating way.
- Catfishing, or lying about one’s identity online in order to initiate a romantic or sexual relationship
- Cyberbullying, or the “willful and repeated harm inflicted through the use of computers, cell phones, and other electronic devices” often to threat, harass, or humiliate another, according to the Cyberbullying Research Center
- Cyberstalking by monitoring someone’s whereabouts with GPS or other tracking systems or persistently contacting someone against their will through text, email, social media, or other digital platforms
- Distributing or threatening to distribute sexual or intimate images of someone without their consent, also known as digital sexual assault or revenge porn
- Hacking into someone’s online accounts or devices to steal personal images or information not intended for public sharing
- Harassing someone through an online gaming platform or forum
- Posting shaming, embarrassing, sensitive, or otherwise inappropriate information about someone on social media or other public sites, whether it is true or not
- Pressuring you to send explicit images of yourself Sending sexually explicit emails, chats, texts, photos, videos, or emojis that are unwelcome or unsolicited
- Taking sexually explicit pictures or videos of someone without their consent
- Trolling, or deliberately posting upsetting or provocative statements or photos in order to provoke others
- Unsolicited or unwanted sharing of pornography or pornographic images
Who can I talk to?
If you receive or have been the target of unwanted digital communication of a sexual nature, it can leave you feeling uncomfortable or scared. Visit online.rainn.org to chat with someone who is trained to help.
How can I report it?
You have several options for reporting. In some cases, there aren’t laws that directly prohibit these types of situations, even if they are sexually explicit or unwelcome. You can, however, often have that person removed or blocked from a website. If you receive communication that is threatening, part of a pattern of abuse, or consistent with harassment, don’t hesitate to contact law enforcement or a lawyer. Even if you do not wish to pursue a criminal case, you may be able to move forward with a civil case. You may be able to use the evidence you collect using the following tips to gain an order of protection that includes contact over social media and other digital platforms.
- Keep evidence by taking screenshots immediately or printing out text messages, social media posts, or other exchanges. Make sure your screenshots contain the information of the person who is being harmful and the time stamp. Some information is easily deleted—a picture or hard copy can provide evidence that the content was sent. If the interaction occurred through a public website or social media channel, you can report the exchange to the site’s host. Most websites that allow exchanges between users have a “report” button or link located near the chat window.
- You can contact local authorities and report the activity. If you are in school and the person harassing you goes to your school, you can report anonymously. If you are experiencing the harassment or abuse through a social media platform, app, or online game, you can report through the site. Note that laws about digital technology and communication will vary, and especially for these newer forms of communication, there may not be laws in place to regulate this use of technology.
- If the situation involves a minor or images of a minor, report to law enforcement or call 911 immediately. You can also make a report on the Cyber Tipline. If you are a minor who takes photos of themselves and/or sends and/or possesses an image, you should also reach out for advice.
- If the situation occurred among co-workers or managers, it might be considered a form of sexual harassment and is illegal. Contact your Human Resources Department to report the activity.
- If the person who is making you feel uncomfortable is another student, teacher, or administrator at your college, university, or K-12 school, you may want to consider reporting the behavior to the Title IX officer or a trusted adult at school.
What can I do to feel safer?
There are some precautionary steps you can take to increase your safety and security across different platforms.
- Set a passcode on your phone and other devices. To help ensure more security on social media and messaging apps, log out of your accounts each time you are done using them. Don’t save passwords in your web browser or other accounts for convenience.
- Google yourself. Make a habit of Googling yourself once in a while. Remove any personal information or photos of you that you are not comfortable with or that could be used by someone to harass you online.
- You should never be pressured to share your personal information. Suppose someone online is pressuring you to share personally identifiable information, such as your full name, address, date of birth, or phone number. In that case, you can always refuse, block them, or give them fake information.
- Do not open messages from unknown senders. If you receive a text, call, friend request, or private message request from someone you don’t recognize, you don’t have to answer or respond to it. Consider deleting it without reading it; these can contain inappropriate content you may not want to be associated with or viruses that can affect your device.
- Limit what information you post about yourself online. Personally identifying information can be used against you. For instance, posting your personal email on a public blog means that people you don’t know have a way to contact you.
- Be conscious about who sees your photos. If you share a picture, either online or with another person, be mindful that you are increasing the odds that others will see the photograph, even if it was unintended.
- You can always block or report. If someone is making you uncomfortable on a public site, report them, or block them using the site’s reporting function as soon as possible.
- Keep your webcam private. Put a sticker over your webcam, laptop camera, or phone camera when they aren’t in use. These device can sometimes be hacked and used to take pictures or videos of you without your consent.
To speak with someone who is trained to help, call the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 800.656.HOPE (4673) or chat online at online.rainn.org.